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Spicy Relationship
Ben Lord
My thoughts have
been on how to help spice up your relationship. How is your love life,
your relationship? With your partner do you feel that you need something
different to spice it up?I have been reading on the net and believe this
to be true: Truly good relationships are rare and wonderful, they don’t
just happen by chance. They’re the result of ongoing learning and work.
Being online together if you can is a great place to start with spicing up
your relationship. Look for sites that contain information for both of
you. Think about what you have here… You have a great community where lots
of couples seek out new and exciting erotica, pictures, stories and
videos.
There
are a couple of sites on the net that do cater for couples.
Couples can get to those sites and enjoy the stories and fantasies
together without having to hide the fact that you both are in need of hot
steamy romance or wild sex. A lot of men and women may feel a tad inferior
when it comes to looking at sexy couples, slim Jane pretzels, muscular
hunks… please don’t ever feel this way… You are a normal person no matter
what you may look like. I write this knowing it to be very true. I am a
larger lady, a and many years ago I looked at myself thinking that I was
not good in bed, was not a great lover and I put myself down because of my
build… Not any more. I have a partner who understands me, who loves me for
who I am and doesn’t expect me to look like Pamela Anderson. Apart from
that with the work I do offline I see many men daily who love larger
ladies…
So while you look at
pictures and read stories about hot babes with great tits,
remember that you too are that person
regardless of your build… and guys remember too that you can be a great
lover - size does not matter, it’s how you use it counts.
You may be asking what has this got to do with your relationship? It has a
lot to do with it… Your personality, character, openness, your
individuality are all part of your relationship with your partner.
Without forcing
intimacy, partners can create opportunities to be closer to each other by
arranging romantic interludes, but when doing this, you need to remember
that if you have forgotten how to be romantic or out of the habit of doing
it, then sometimes trying too hard for your fantasy to unfold can
inadvertently lead to disappointment. To avoid disappointment talk to each
other about your fantasies, tell your partner what turns you on, if you
want to plan a romantic weekend away or a “date”, talk about it first.
Then when you feel the time is right, one of you make the move by ringing
and asking your partner out for a meal or perhaps plan a weekend away
where instead of going together, you meet at the hotel.
When a relationship first begins, intimate moments happen like mysterious
accidents, we stumble blindly together; we are tender, relaxed and we are
passionate together; Does it wet your appetite
for more? I believe it does, but sometimes relationships lose
their way when it comes to being romantic, close and sexually fulfilled.
Talk to each other about what you feel makes
for good and bad times, the factors that may influence how
close you feel to each other could be hope, fear and the balance between
quality time together and apart and how much you count on or rely on each
other. Try to remember a good balance of quality time together and time
apart builds both intimacy and individuality.
Creating lasting closeness means you need to rely on each other and to
help each other fulfil dreams. Invest some of your time together
discussing those hopes and dreams that you both have and can share.
True intimacy is one of the greatest experiences in life, how
you create and nurture it though is the real challenge. It takes teamwork
and openness from both of you to make it happen. While searching the Net I
also came across an erotic questionnaire with 6 of the top answers and I
thought I would share them with you. Let me know what you think and if you
have any more answers let me know and I’ll post some of them next month
along with other ideas on how to spice up your relationship… Don’t forget
to read this carefully there are two ways suggested within this column and
I know they work…
Erotic Questions and The Top 6 Answers:
Q: “Lately my partner seems uninterested in having sex with me. What
can I do to “wow” him?”
A1: “We once made ice-cream sundaes on each other’s stomachs and
ate them. The hot fudge and cold ice-cream together on your skin creates
quite a sensation.”
A2: “Buy a cheap plastic shower curtain and a bottle of baby oil.
Warm the oil in a hot water, and lay the curtain over your bed or on the
living room floor. Squirt the oil all over the curtain and get naked!”
A3:
“Gently tie and blindfold him while he lies on the bed. Stand at the side
of the bed and lightly trail your fingers all over his body. Leave his
genital area alone for as long as possible. When you deprive him of his
sense of sight, his other sense will kick into overdrive.”
A4: “Every time we have any kind of sex, we put money in a jar.
Oral sex gets a buck plus a quarter; a hand job gets a buck plus a dime;
if she comes, it’s a buck plus a nickel; if we videotape it, it’s a buck
plus a five-dollar bill. It’s a great incentive!”
A5:
“My wife always does something unexpected. When I was tending bar, she got
in an empty ice bin and started going down on me. It was fabulous - until
I had to move to serve someone.”
A6:
“Make your own movie with exactly what you want in it. Just make sure you
lock it up tight when you’re done.”
Some of these things
are so interesting, I think I might try some of them with my clients and
partner. Until next month everyone… Enjoy your fantasies, experiment and
live your dreams together… |
